Cool Chick, there are only a few moments in our lives that are truly life-changing. These may differ from person to person but, in general they are the Big Things - death of a close family member, birth of a child, a major purchase, a wedding. In these pivotal moments, we want - no, need - to be surrounded by people we love and trust, by people who love us and trust us. When I get married, my best friend will be at my side - she has been my confidant, my pillar, my strength, my shoulder to cry on, my deep dark well that holds my darkest secrets. She knows me, she loves me and I can't think of anything on God's green earth that will keep us apart at the times and moments of our Big Things. If you friend CHOSE not to have you at her side at this momentous occasion, and she CHOSE to have someone else on her special day, then your friendship is less important in her eyes than it is in yours. It hurts you, I can tell, and I understand why. It feels like betrayal. Maybe, in this Big Thing, she is making a new path in life and leaving the old behind, and making place for new things, new people, new best friends. As her best friend, through your hurt, you have to allow her to leave and let her go to her new life. For her sake, and because you love her, hide your pain and be happy for her, but realise that things will - may - never be the same again. For the years that are behind you, for the love that you share, for all the times when you were her best friend and she was yours, forgive her for this hurt and be happy for her and, hard as it is, prepare to lose her. Maybe the traditional thing about 'something old, and something new' on one's wedding day holds more wisdom than we realise. Take care.
53 mths ago