This is a very difficult situation to be in. I had a very strange childhood, going to my first boarding school when I was 5. Both my parents were very egotistical narcissists. I believe they did love me, but in their own peculiar ways. As you get older, and hopefully wiser, you realize that, seen from their points of view, they were "good" parents, even though you know the truth to be somewhat different.. My parents have been dead for 15 years, and I am still trying to come to terms with their behaviour. Thank God, I forgave them, to a certain extent, whilst they were still alive. It is only now, that I wish that I could have forgiven them, unconditionally, while they were still alive. My "advice" would be to be the bigger person, have broad shoulders, and try and establish a meaningful relationship with your mother, while she is still on earth. Not for her sake, but for your enrichment, as well as your daughter's sake. It can be hard, to go back into the lion's den, but you are now your own person and much stronger than when you were a child. This can also be a very positive influence on your daughter's life. Sorry, if I sound like I am preaching.
55 mths ago