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If you don't like your son's girlfriend and you do have good reason, how do you get her out of his life???


He is 21 and the girl is 14 but, she's got many issues and i'm sure my son feels sorry for her.
55 mths ago

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Be nice to her..be soooo nice that is is just tooo much for her to handle. Ring her up each day and keep inviting her to the house, give her lots of horrible ornaments as gifts...drive her away with kindness. If you are horrible to her..you son will stick to her like glue and do everything to 'protect her from you'.

55 mths ago

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How old is your son? If he is old enough to know what is right and what is wrong, let them be and let him learn by his/her mistakes.

55 mths ago

Man, this is a hard one. My oldest son turned 14 today and there is not a day that goes by that I wonder about things like this. What if he meets a girl one day and I don't like her!!! What will I do??? I know it is hard and I know that it will be hard for me one day, but I think you have to just let him realise it for himself. Just go with the flow on this one cause the more fuss you make about it the more he is going to be determant to proofe you wrong!!!!

55 mths ago

Don't interfere & let your kids learn from mistakes. I don't know the whole story but you might be wrong. My Mom thought she knew something & didn't... She interfered & nearly destroyed my life, nearly lost my life too because of that. She tried to take the man I love away from me & I have the scars to prove it.

55 mths ago

Oh dear me, mothers and their sons....you will probably never like his girlfriend and you will probably never like his wife either, get used to it. Either accept it or lose your son.....you are probably one of those mother in laws from hell hey?

55 mths ago

You have to let him make his own mistakes and learn from it. No matter how hard you try to push her away it will make him more determined to hold onto her, even if it is to spite you. My late mother-in-law was also an interfering bitch and made my life hell because she thought that her son should marry an Afrikaans girl.

55 mths ago

Just tolerate her and she'll fuck off on her own. If you let your son know you dont like her he will just want to be with her more. In fact, the moment you accept her and start liking her, the quicker she'll be gone !

55 mths ago

Just let it be, he'll realise it soon enough, just don't get too friendly with her, tolerate her. He'll quickly realise thatyou are not that keen on her and drop her

55 mths ago

This is a very difficult one and happens to so many parents. The worst thing you can do is try to put him off her -- that will just move him towards her more and you will be accused of being the typical interfering 'mother-in-law' (let's hope it doesn't get that far). Has he a close friend that he confides in and would listen to? If you have 'good reason', as you say, maybe you could explain your reservations to his friend and ask if he would have a word with your son. But you have to be sure that your motives are pure. Not easy.

55 mths ago

I find that the more you make your disapproval known, the longer the girl/boyfriend will be on the scene. Best is to be polite and be supportive to your son. At the end of the day, he has to decide for himself. This is a lesson that he must learn in order to make correct partner choices later on.

Source: Just my 50 cents worth.

55 mths ago

She isnt even the legal age ! What is your son thinking ?

55 mths ago

I dont know what the legal age of consent is but it looks like your son might be dating a minor and that is illegal

55 mths ago

At 14 the girl may think she is old enough to date, but your son could still be in for statutory rape if it goes there. Neither your son or the girl is mature enough to handle the situation. Get social services involved if the girl needs rescueing

55 mths ago

you can't do anything...look at me, I've tried everything to get this guy out of my daughter's life and NOTHINg has worked, hopefully one day she'll realise that and get on with her life!!! Good luck!!

55 mths ago

i'm with hellcat, maneater and vlaktekind on this one. 14 is too young for him to be dating and he could get into trouble - especially if her parents decide they don't like your son. I think the legal age is 16. Still 2 years away for her

55 mths ago

Um, you do realise that your son is a statutory rapist?

55 mths ago

what issues does she have that makes her not fit fo your son

55 mths ago

you can't really ..but she is still young she's still playing . It's not your choice to make.. he will have to choose and open his eyes

55 mths ago

I don't think that your son should be dating a 14 year old, she is underage and if he has a sexual relationship with her, its statutory rape. He should be mature enough to understand that he is playing with the law, her parents would seriously take action against him if anything happened, like her becoming pregnant.

55 mths ago

Their relationship is illegal in the eyes of the law. Legal age of consent is 16 for girls and 18 for guys. If she's younger than 18 which she is he cannot be more than 4 years her senior. If she is 18 he can be any age and it'll be legal.

Source: I know this law.

55 mths ago

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