How to get rid of an abusive husband??? My friend lives in her house with her 2nd husband????
He abuses her mentally. Hardly talks to her, treats her like an idiot, which she is not. Refuses to go for councelling. They have been married or 8 years. She has to cook and clean and work. No one to help her, least of all him. For days he ignores her. She is at breaking point, and has no money. What to do??? Where to go??? How to get him out without legal consequences??? I do not know....can anyone help???? She is here with me and she is slowly but surely breaking up.
She does not want to leave the house. It is hers. Scared he will get hold of it.
She tells me now, that she has a tape made by his first wife on which she talks exactly about all the things happening to her at the moment. He has also drawn a gun on her sun...don't know why. He seems mentally unstable to me. He is horrible for weeks, and suddenly for a day or to your original ray of sunshine!!!!
Unquiet, it is not his house....it is utterly, name an deeds, hers. Wonder if that changes anything. They are married O.C.P. which states that the house is hers.
Francois, I appreciate your words. Her son is a married man of 35 who lives in Pretoria. He did this a year ago when the son tried to reason with him. I promise you, he suffers no trauma at all. Just hates the man. They do not talk at all.
60 mths ago
Also Francois, she is nearly 60 years old. Losing her house now, would be devistating. She does not have an income, will not get one from him, and where in hell would she find work? You have just jumped into this conversation. I appreciate that you do not know the circumstances fully, but a word of advice from me, 62 years old, keep a reign on it....be more gentle. This poor woman is losing all self respect. At her age life is not that easy. She is in the hands of a madman. I also think he needs help, but refuses to see any one. When they are at home, he goes on his merry way, making a much of everything, doing exactly what he wants to, all the while, not speaking a word to her. He has this strange grimace. He knows exactly what he is doing. Destroying a woman.