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How do moms do it? How do moms work full time, cook, clean and spend time with their children.

I had a panic attact yesterday when I realized my baby will be spending 11 hours at the creche during the day.... and only 1 or 2 hours with me before she goes to bed.... a stranger will be raising my baby.... it makes me depressed. 50 mths ago

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Well I know the feeling but what else can we do especially when you're a single parent.

50 mths ago

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Lisa, you manage, you have to there is no choice, I had my son with my DW which was awesome, I also made arrangements with my bosses that I arrive at 8:30am and leave at 16:30am. I tend to clean once the kdis have gone to bed, and if you really feel like being pedantic then you can cook the following nights supper the night before when the kids are sleeping and that will give you even more time to spend with your kids. Remember nobody takes the place of mom

50 mths ago

You don't and you can't but yet you do. i'm a single mom and my son is four. I also spend about an hour or two with him in the evening. I have found that it works to have him do his 'schoolwork' in the kitchen with me while I prepare supper and have the washing machine on, then when we've finished eating, he will brush his teeth and get ready for bed while I do dishes quickly. tuck him into bed, get to have a bath at around 09h30 at night and once that's done I spend times with my fiance.

50 mths ago

I take my hat off to working moms. I dont have any children - just 2 doggies - I work full time and even I cant always cope with everything (no maid) - one of the reasons I chose not to have children was the thought of having someone else bring them up while I had to work all day............

50 mths ago

That is very sad, and my heart goes out to you. The only comfort I can give you is that you are not alone. It is so important to spend time with your child, but children are very resilient, and adapt easier than we think they do. Try and make the time spent together a great time.

50 mths ago

I ask myself that question everyday; I would not be able to do what my mum did and what my wife does now. Mothers are a very special breed and I heap all the praise on them.

50 mths ago

I guess that's what makes Moms special. I never truly appreciated it until I became a single Dad and found myself doing all that stuff on my own too.

50 mths ago

It is because we are WOMAN! Amazing human beings that are capable of doing it all, at one time!

50 mths ago

I am still trying to work that one out myself, like today I had to do the dishes this morning as my helper can not come in today, and pack lunches etc.etc. I suggest get a very good helper for 5 days a week, let her cook and clean and then at least you can spend the little time with your baby.

50 mths ago

If you got no choice...you'll see how...

50 mths ago

You just make the time. My partner and i have a great arrangement, she works for me 3 days a week (to pay towards the rent) and the rest of the time, she is at home with her daughter... it works for us

50 mths ago

Manage your time and have a set routine. Though it's not always easy. It helps if you have a helpful partner.

50 mths ago

Hi Lisa! I've been wondering the same thing for years now. Asked my mom once- who's also a widow, so had no help from any husband- and she said in time I'd also know how too. Flip! I don't know about you, but that scares the hell out of me. I can barely hold my current life schedule together- work, studies, NGO work, gym, friends, house cleaning, laundry, etc.- how much more when there are little ones to care for. In my eyes all moms are super-moms! Sjoe!

50 mths ago

They can do it because they have good men supporting them, helping them, loving them, which we don't always have...

50 mths ago

You just do manage.I had three children and worked full time.When the children were out of nursery school(which is expensive)I eventually got live in domestic help.That made a huge difference because at least I didn't have to clean and iron as well.I came home from work and cooked dinner every night(no take aways or instant meals),helped with homework and chatted to my kids about their day.Bedtime was strictly 8pm so that I could have some rest time.Weekends were spent shopping and being with my children.You have to make sacrifices like cutting down on your social life/gym etc but as my children are all grown up now and doing well it was certainly worth it.

50 mths ago

My husband also do cleaning up, cooking, washing. We both work full time and we both do everything at home ourselfes. But yes, it is so sad that we only have a few hours to spend with our kids. And before we know it, they are flying out of the nest and we sit with all the guilty feelings cause we've missed out on so much of them......

50 mths ago

I managed to find myself a half day job some years back, while my boys were small and at junior school, so I was able to fetch them and be home with them in the afternoon (while doing the housework) but at least I was home, and have been fortunate enough to still have one.

50 mths ago

some ladies are gifted with energy and some don't apprciate that gift when they get a maid.my wife does everything and all i do is just pay the bills and we have sex on a regular basis, she washes up,does the washing,cleans the pool and many more then at the end of the month of my R16 000 i give her a whopping R2000 for all the duties. rgdz

50 mths ago

I take my hat off to working moms! You are one super species! I'm a stay at home mom. I'm busy 80% of the day - cleaning, cooking, washing, kids homehork, charity work, etc. - the other 20% is spent driving around, eating, going to the loo, etc. By the time hubby gets home at 20:00 i'm dead tired. I honestly do not know how you guys do it.

50 mths ago

I am playing Mr. Mom right now with a 3yo I just inherited. The only way I have been able to manage is I work 3rd shift, I get home when he is waking up. I nap like a half dead cat until around 11am. We then get lunch out of the way, I throw in laundry, change channels, play, get showers for us together at around 2pm, cook dinner for teen and 3yo, and then teen watches him from 5ish until 8pm when I have to get up and do it all over again. The cat naps keep me sain, the 2hr nap in eve prepares me for work again. My ex and I have helped ea other a lot latey with the kids. Then the weekend gets the deep cleaning done. Weekdays cover just the basics.

50 mths ago

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