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Why do people normally not like their mother-in-law?

66 mths ago

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A child is NEVER grown up in every mum's eye. And so, she feels she always(just like when the child was, say, 2 years old) has to control the child; and, basically, that's how she INVOLUNTARILY comes in. However, in almost 90% of all cases, the mother-in-law's contribution comes out a disturbance. Mother-Child relationship is much more serious than Father-Child relationship, for sure, due to biological reasons. Maybe, that's why Father-in-laws rarely come out a disturbance in their children's marriage relationships.

66 mths ago

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I would also like to know!!!! Mine was great!!!

66 mths ago

They interfere, think they know everything. They think their sons are Gods gift to women.

66 mths ago

Because they are mothers and sometimes don't know how or when to let go! Mine is great though.

66 mths ago

I think it is because they tend to side with their own children, against you. I love my mom-in-law though, she is really great.

66 mths ago

Ek maak my nou self oop vir houe...... Myne is altyd suuuuuuuuuur!!

66 mths ago

I think is because their mother-in-law is reacting to them like beasts. But in the other hand, I know many people who like their mother-in-law.

66 mths ago

Mothers of your partner tend to still think that their sons/daughters are young children. Apparently, a mom will always see their kids as helpless and unprepared. This explains the intefering behaviour that may come from them in your lives. People usually don't like their mother-in-laws because they feel they are always intefering and don't approve of the decisions they make. If people do have this problem, it would be wise to set boundaries. Or to change your thinking and see it as a loving act from the mother-in-law's side (As hard as it may be!)

66 mths ago

Thanks, another reason for me never to get married :)

66 mths ago

Mine is an intefering, gossip queen. She has 2 sons and always try and cause them to fight! They have learnt though, and luckily it doesnt come between them anymore. My husbands older brother and his wife had to find out via the grapevine that they getting a divorce, and she started the rumour... She is dilly, and its because she needs the attention on her all the time. But there are some mom in laws out there thats just awesome, both my parents had graeat mom in laws, and my husband and my parents get along very well!

66 mths ago

I think it is the most difficult thing to throw strangers together and now expect them to all get along. I have the most wonderful generous mother in law. I do not know maybe the mother in law had a wicked mother in law her self and now she wants to treat her daughter in law the same way she was treated. I have two sons and I am scared to think one day I shall be a mother in law. Although I get on like an house on fire with both of their friends at the moment. I am basically the second mother as they are from other provinces.

66 mths ago

I LOVE my mother in law, I could not have asked for a better one. She is absolutely fantastic. Now that I have recently lost my own mother I am gratefull that I can share my husbands mother with him. Cause my own mother was No 1 but my mother in law is definetly No2. I must remember to tell her I love her this weekend. Granny you ROCK !

66 mths ago

I loved mine

66 mths ago

I am a mother-in-law. And I can say with all honesty, I am the best ! I never, ever interfere with either of my daughters-in-law lives. I am always there to baby sit. They both call me on a regular basis, and vice versa. I know, but I am allowed to blow my own trumpet!

66 mths ago

If your mother-in-law is your husband's mother, its because men always choose their mothers above their own wives...they prefer their mother's cooking, and nobody can do anything better than their mothers. And lo and behold when children come along...the mother in law must always give her ideas about how to raise the child etc etc. Little boys never let go of the mother's apron strings...shame...

66 mths ago

Because they usually try competing with each other.

66 mths ago

Because a lot of the time no partner is good enough for the mother-in-law daughter or son...my husband loves my mom and I adore my mom-in-law, now my father-in-law, that is a different story

66 mths ago

Gewoonlik meng hulle in. EN gewoonlik kan jy nie met hul stry nie waar jy vir jou eie ma kan sĂȘ nee.

66 mths ago

I do not think that people do not like them on purpose. MIL's does tend to interfere into childrens lives and that's where things normally go wrong. There is a thin line between advice and medling and it shouldn't be crossed. i love mine a lot, but just sometimes she does things I hate, but then that is life.

66 mths ago

It seems that as a rule, mother-in-law's feel that their power over their child is removed by the newcomer, so they instinctively become full of shit!

66 mths ago

If she is anything like mine it would be because she has serious, unresolved issues and pulls the martyr card at every given opportunity. It also didn't help that to this day she has not congratulated us on our engagement and spent the day of our engagement crying...but insisted that she was happy...very mature.

66 mths ago

I get on very well with all my daughters/son-in law. I make a point of never interfering, paying compliments where it's due and only give my opinion/help when it's asked for.I also babysit often.I think some mothers-in-law try and be bossy/interfering/judgemental and that just can't work.

66 mths ago

Sy meng orals in en wil nog vir haar seuntjie elke dag kos werk toe aandra en maak of jy nie vir hom kan sorg nie. EN dan meng sy ook in op die manier hoe jy JOU kinders, nie hare nie, grootmaak....ASOF sy so 'n great job gedoen het!!!

66 mths ago

Hopestar hit the nail on the head & coz the food you make is never as good as his mothers, your house could never be as clean & neat as hers.

66 mths ago

Many moms don't even realise it, but they want to be the only woman in their sons' lives.

66 mths ago

Because she misled me, when she was in such a hurry to dump her sweet, little princess on me.

66 mths ago

I have the BEST mother-in-law to be.

66 mths ago

It seems most people here do love their mothers-in-law. But I know they can be a problem, especially mothers with sons. I read an article some years ago about special mother-in-law ; daughter-in-law therapy classes being set up somewhere in Italy because things had got so out of hand. My aunt had an Italian husband, who after they were married, would go to his mom for supper every night. Obviously, their marriage didn't last too long. But I'm pleased to see that most AITs get on with their MILs. I think it's a case of "When they are good, they are very very good, but when they are bad, they are horrid.

66 mths ago

My mother-in-law has a heart of gold and will do anything for anyone. But, if she could just stop telling me stories about people whom I don't know and therefore I have no interest in - perhaps, our phone calls will be more interesting and quicker!

66 mths ago

I hardly new mine. She died two years after we got married. She, however did not like me at all. Ben was about to get married to her best friend's daughter and I came along and gatecrashed the whole arrangement. She always used to talk of this girl, and I would say "Siestog"

Source: Alicia

66 mths ago

Mine is fine until she tries to mother my son

66 mths ago

Im ok with mine, shes far, far away from us, thus, we enjoy each other when we are visiting each other.

66 mths ago

Normally the husbands mom is possessive and the wife won't be abe to handle it

66 mths ago

The most logical answer to this question is..The daughter/son in law don't know how to handle their mother in law. If you're a woman/man trying to compete or show the mother-in law just how much you care and love their daughter/son than you're barking up the wrong tree because they know that allready and it would look to her as if you are trying isolate her from her son/daugter. A neat trick is to let the inlaws think that you allways need their advice and that you need their experience to guide you in most matters, Of course you don't have to do everything they tell you to but it will deffinately improve your relations with your in-laws.

66 mths ago

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